Your Pace, Your People, Your Mistakes

Go at your own pace
We can’t help that social media is connecting us and at the same time exposing us to all the great things our friends and connections are doing. We can’t help but feel we’re lagging behind and not doing as great as they are. 
In the part of the conversation that we speak about reading books smartly, I realized that this advice really applies to any other aspect of our lives. We should not feel under pressure to do anything we don’t feel fulfils us. We also should not feel pressured to do things simply for the reason that we’ll get “likes” and “kudos” on social media. A happy medium would be doing something we truly enjoy, at the time we feel ready for it without the expectation of praise.

Find your tribe--they’ll keep you sane 
Ellen’s transition to focusing on her business full time has been heavily supported by her support network. Not only did they give her the nudge to leave employment, but also got together to give her help with skills she needed to get going. She found a family that supported her materially and mentally through the transition and beyond. It’s difficult to imagine what that transition would’ve been like without that support network. 

Don’t waste your mistakes, make them unapologetically and learn from them
Ellen recommended  book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and with it a lesson that we should care less about how others view our failures and care more about what we’re learning from those mistakes.
This thought reminded me that mistakes aren’t the end of the world (even though it often feels like it is because everyone must be watching). At best, you’ll feel shitty about it, remind yourself it isn’t the end of the world, learn your lesson, and move on to make smarter decisions.
What helps me remember that mistakes aren’t the end of the world is asking myself “whose mistake do I remember?” The answer is often no one else’s but mine. And this is true of most other people. No one remembers your mistake as much as you do, so try to beat yourself up less about it.

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ELLEN'S BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

You’re a Badass

The Bible

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